Friend (according to dictionary.com):
| 1. | a person attached to another by feelings of affection or personal regard. |
| 2. | a person who gives assistance; patron; supporter: friends of the Boston Symphony. |
| 3. | a person who is on good terms with another; a person who is not hostile: Who goes there? Friend or foe? |
I am pretty sure, that people that are really friends, don’t run off and screw you at the first chance they get. That is what has happened since I’ve moved from Texas.
I’ve got what I thought were *friends* in the horse business that have absolutely no respect for me or my ability, telling folks that the horses I sold them are not good or are not what they needed. If they respected me, or were really my friend, wouldn’t they have given me the common courtesy of a phone call, asking me what my thought process was? Or saying, I think this is the route I’m going to have this client go now what do you think? OR even, a “Thanks for the business you sent me.” Instead I hear from people that they had nothing good to say about me. Sometimes I think I’m a very bad judge of character. I really thought highly of this person. Now, not so much.
I have clients, that I worked very hard to serve and do right by for the last two years, that will no longer speak to me. Am I so horrible or did I so mislead them? What is wrong with people that when they have a problem with you, they won’t just come to you and say, *XXXXXXX*?
I have made a lot of referrals to the people that I used in the business and other than my vet, not a soul has said thank you for me 1. being loyal and 2. for the continued patronage. I don’t understand.
Makes me wonder, if this woman and the folks that I thought were loyal clients will do that; who else does too? Who else thinks I’m not all I’m cracked up to be; or that I make bad decisions, or don’t do right by folks?
I have a headache. Not entirely from this situation, but from a cold that I’m fighting off. It has gone around the ranch, and I think I’m the last one to get it. On another note, my allergies are better here.
I don’t know the situation that you’re talking about, however, I do know that from my OWN experience that you are the most trusting, honest, and giving person I know. If it had not been for you Dara and Copper would not be where they are today.
People can be so deceiving, I know from teaching school. You still have us as your biggest fans!!!
I tell everyone I know about your ability and what you’ve done to help Dara and Copper. So don’t let one or two people change your mind.
We miss you a lot!!!
It is the nature of the beast to try to promote one’s self.
It is also the nature of the beast to do that by the easiest means possible.
And for some that seems to be tearing down others.
You KNOW that you are GREAT at what you do Jenn.
You KNOW that you never entered any business deal to screw anyone.
You KNOW that you tried EXTREMELY hard to rectify that situation and to get all of your students with new trainers before you left.
You KNOW that whoever this friend is, you tried to help her business by referring your clients to her.
And the fact that they have come back to you and told you what “that friend” said should tell you that your clients know too.
You are not going to please everyone . . . you are not going to be everyone’s cup of tea. Do not stress yourself trying. Do not give yourself the headache of trying to figure out why some people would rather say “good thing you got away from Jenn” rather than “I’m really glad Jenn sent you to me.” You can’t account for some people’s up bringing or lack there of.
Continue to be a blessing to those you help and you will continue to be blessed.
I completely understand about the friend betrayal thing. Just read my post entitled “How to lose a friend in 16 years.” And no, she STILL hasn’t called me. Talk about hurt feelings.
I’m constantly reminded that the only TRUE Friend, is Jesus Christ. He’s the ONLY one that can be totally trusted. Not even my beloved Petey can be totally trusted.
That said, you’d think you could trust other so-called friends even a bit! But I’m reminded over and over that that’s not the case.
I feel myself holding back all the time in relationships now. I only offer my whole self to Christ.
There’s so much talk about being “real” and “transparent”. Well, unless there’s some way to force everyone to do that, it’s not going to work!
Many will get hurt by the few who are doing the hurting. The trusting vs. the trusted.
I’m so sorry this person did that to you. Don’t doubt yourself… don’t let that person hurt you ANY MORE. They are not worth it, guaranteed!