Someone dear to me lost a loved one today.
I always feel helpless when these things happen, because there is nothing you can say or to do to ease their pain and hurt and loss. And I for one never know what to say or what to do and I certainly don’t want to be in the way. I would take it all away from them if I could.
I guess in times like this it’s best to pray, because God is the ultimate comforter and He knows exactly what each and every person surrounding this situation needs, so maybe it’s best to just pray for all of them; that He’ll surround them with love and peace and a sense of reason for things that seem perfectly random.
No one really knows what to say in times like that, but just trying helps even if it’s awkward makes a difference. I’ve been to three funerals and sent condolenses to a fourth in the last five weeks. Some less close friends didn’t even know I’d lost that number of friends/family lately, but just hearing from the people who cared was good–even if they didn’t know why exactly. Sometimes not talking about it and just feeling normal is good too, Jen. It’s overload when it’s too much at once and just talking about normal stuff is sometimes the best healing.
I’m glad shuttle is making progress, and I’m sorry that you’re still getting crap from abbott (though not surprised). I hope you can just move passed that part of your life completely soon and that he will let go and not use finger pointing, mean-spirited blame, and misplaced self importance as a way to get your attention and as a means of making himself feel better. Move on and be happy.
I feel the same way when someone dies. I NEVER know what the right thing to do or say is, as I have known very little people who died. I just pray to God to give the ones left behind strength.