Sometimes I wonder if we all know that we have *innate* responsibilities in a marriage or a relationship.
I mean, women, are traditionally supposed to be good organizers, and good at running domestic affairs; I suppose that is how God wired us.
Men, are supposed to be good at handing stress better, as well as physical labor and can often separate emotion from reason which benefits them in their roles. And that is how God wired them.
So what do you do when the wires get crossed? And I’m sorta thinking that society has helped the wires get crossed.
There are too many men belittled in sitcoms. You see it every night. There are men that would prefer to be women. There are women that would prefer to be men. There are too many women that want equal rights that have messed it up for those of us that are okay being just *women*. Not that a brilliant woman, who is capable, shouldn’t get paid what a man gets paid for the same work. In many occupations women are more proficient. Though, women, as the child bearers (God for sure wired and plumbed us that way) are the ones that have to take maternity leaves and are the ones that often get called away from work for sick children, etc. So I can understand the employer’s perspective.
Personally the stress of providing for an entire household would put me into a depression so fast I’d not know what hit me. But I think this issue goes deeper than that. I think that since the lines are all askew (and I’m not saying some crossover isn’t good) there are many men that view marriages and relationships like business propositions/partnerships. And that is bad and possibly wrong. I think innately that women want to be taken care of and needed; men need respect, at the least (we don’t have to respect their choices but them as individuals).
I think sometimes in life, the responsibilities get all mixed up and it creates unnecessary turmoil and issues that are difficult to work through. I think this is more so evidenced when you’ve got people that are set in their ways involved in relationships.
Life is all about giving, and working together. Each has their own gifts to bring to the table and I think unless a couple realizes that, they’re not going to be terribly successful. Let each person use their gifts; and allow each other to shine.
I have no idea if the above ramble made a lick of sense. But thanks for listening to my rant.
No, you are not crazy. I see it too in a lot of relationships. However, i also see the opposite. Men are the bread winners, wife be barefoot, pregnant and clean,cook, tend to man needs….Yeah, I dont like that either. I think that a marriage should be a union of two souls/ hearts where each person in the relationship is responsible for the other person’s happiness. This requires empathy, understanding, patience, love, needs, compromise and the list goes on. I feel that each person should help their life partner to be the person that they always wanted to be. I think that there should be an overwhelming amount of respect for each person in the marriage. I feel that one should stand up for the other. I feel that each partner should be willing to help the other partner in anyway to help them to be successful and happy. OK, there is my rant…