Websters defines unconditional love as: affection with no limits or conditions; complete love.
I think I know how to love completely, or my eyes wouldn’t be sore from crying. After taking time to contemplate the Dove Wrapper, I’ve decided that the phrase: Dare to love completely can mean loving yourself, because after all, don’t you have to love yourself completely in order to love someone else the way they deserve?
And while I think that the healthiest relationships involve unconditional love; the kind that God showed us through Christ, those relationships still involve boundaries.
Websters defines boundaries as: something that indicates bounds or limits; a limiting or bounding line.
In the case of setting boundaries for the health of one’s self, they help us avoid pain and irresponsibility and they’re also important for guarding and nurturing our souls. They’re like fences with a gate. You can control what comes in and what goes out. Love can only exist, where there is freedom – both for us and the people around us. Boundaries help us define the freedom we have and the freedom we don’t have.
I think the true purpose of boundaries isn’t setting up ultimatums to control the behavior of others, it’s about taking personal responsibility for your actions; it’s setting up the breaking point for yourself; what is acceptable and unacceptable to you for the sake of your soul.
If both of these don’t exist, how can one have a truly, happy, healthy relationship?